What self care is NOT

Lena Dunham wrote this great instagram post a while back that got me thinking. In it she said:

“Be mindful of “self care” not turning into hiding out- there’s a difference.”

Here’s the rub. I am the queen of rationalizing hiding out from the world as “self care” but the woman has a point. The more we hide out, the more our anxiety, stress, and feelings of overhwelm actually grow, thinking about all of the things that need to be done.

As someone who has grappled with anxiety and depression I know that feeling. That instinct to shut down or more pointedly, shut out the world. It may seem healthy at first, and don’t get me wrong, this mama loves her some alone time. But if you find yourself only looking forward to those moments alone or not wanting to engage in everyday life, its time to take action.

So here’s the plan, we ladies are going to grind all week and get what we need to get done, and then give we will give ourselves a scheduled self care block of time every week.

REMEMBER:

If you do find yourself hiding out from the world, you need to know that is totally OKAY to ask for help! Turns out it is totally OKAY to accept help too. Sometimes things can get so big that they seem impossible to tackle on your own. But you don’t have to, you are NOT alone! And if you feel like you are so alone or in a dark place, help is always available! And ya girl is always here to listen! Just because you aren’t visibly bleeding does not mean that you are not sick, and that you do not deserve the best care! XOXO

The Plan:

Let’s get that shit done, then let’s refill our emotional tanks in a way that is gratifying and make sure to honestly check in with yourself and how your are feeling. Sound good? Cool. So tell me, what are you gonna do for yourself this week?

Be Bold! Xo

Betsy

Mental Health Resources:

Behavioral Health Services- San Diego County